Good advice still has to fit your family


Hey Reader,

We all know there is no shortage of homeschool advice out there. My business is built on a foundation of mentoring, giving advice.

Everyone wants to know what "the best" curriculum is. The one with:

  • Glowing reviews
  • A done for you schedule (that looks a-mazing BTW)
  • Promises engagement

You've narrowed it down.

Curriculum-smiculum...your finger hovers over the buy it now button.

It may be an excellent recommendation, but it still has to meet the needs of your actual family.

Advice can offer ideas, possibilities, and reassurance.

It cannot fully account for your child’s needs, your family’s rhythm, your available energy, or the reasons you chose to homeschool.

That doesn’t make outside advice bad. It means you need a filter.

Your child is part of that filter.

(Ha - thought I was going to say ask me, I can help!...I can, but it's by helping you learn what your children are saying with and without words.)

Before following advice, ask:

  • What problem would this solve for us?
  • What have I observed about how my child responds to something similar?
  • Would this support what matters to our family right now?

These questions can help when you’re considering a new resource, membership, coaching program, co-op, etc...

... but they’re just as useful when someone suggests an earlier start time, a stricter routine, more independent work, or a completely different approach.

They can also confirm what's already working.

The Smith family loves a detailed schedule, while your child thrives with a few dependable anchors and room to follow an interesting question.

Both of these are "the best". Best for the Smith Family, Best for your family.

Same doesn't equal best.

There is no wrong way to homeschool. There are choices that fit particular families during particular seasons.

Today, choose one piece of advice you’ve been considering and take it through those three questions.

  • What problem would this solve for us?
  • What have I observed about how my child responds to something similar?
  • Would this support what matters to our family right now?

You’re not required to accept or reject the advice by the end. Your only job is to see how well it matches the evidence you already have.

If it seems promising, you can try a small version. If it doesn’t solve a real problem, you can let it go. If it confirms something you’re already doing, celebrate that evidence.

You’re allowed to learn from other homeschoolers without handing them the authority to define what your homeschool should look like.

Christy's Corner 🐝

What advice sounds good in general but may not fit your family right now?

Or what choice are you more confident keeping after looking at your family’s evidence?

Happy Hive Subscriber Sarah recently sent me this:

This is all a good reminder to go with what works for us! We have been finding our rhythm at home lately, with mornings turning into free play and then a different pace for our afternoons.

I am proud of myself for resisting jumping at every new opportunity that arises or could arise. What we are doing is working and we do not need to do more.